Stop Waiting For a Seat at the Table & Build Your OWN // make your own opportunities

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Monetizing hobbies and cultural preservation are two very different tables. Keep up the good work.

You are so positive and I feel encouraged and enriched by all your videos. Thank you!

As mentioned I had a "gatekeeper" bring me on-board for a collaborative [while I was trained to support her business, SHE also suggested I'd be the in-house consultant for my specialization]. Jealous. We graduated from the same school…but she slowly began picking me apart, tryna see how I tick. Incredulous at how my Black azz could have/be the things I was. Her vibe would change around clients as she tried to assert herself over me …started treating me like an Ethiopian Maid. Anything I did, she'd call me timid or uncomfortable with the work (when I was truly hyped about the gig). She pretty much tried to set me up for failure & when I finally spoke up & set her straight..2 days later she said a new employee wasn't in her budget. 🙄 I'd already received full training to run the entire joint.

Thank you for another well crafted timely video! Building our own table is so damn important not just for us but for future Black girls coming behind us. I can’t lie and say that it’s not exhausting or emotionally taxing. But I will say, it takes the same amount of energy to integrate into spaces not made by us as it does to create spaces by US for US.

In terms of creating my own table… I’m currently a 4th year doctoral student focusing on black girlhood and in MA specifically, I noticed Blac girls are not centered in academic discourse, non profit programming or how to engage them in youth work. So my goal is to build a safe space for young Black girls to amplify and uplift their voices, stories. I’m in my early stages of theorizing it but it will happen. A space created by us for us

Your videos are always right on time 🙏🏽 thank you

You are so right about artists not having freedom on labels, and sacrificing that freedom for their wealth. But I also found out ( through another Black female artist who was signed to a label) that artists don't even have that much freedom with what to do with their MONEY! This is why celebrity net worths that are flaunted in the media shouldn't be believed. To make it even worse, the more money you make, the more people appear in your life to control you. Is it really worth being an artist worth $500 million when you can barely control your life let alone the money you make? I mean, hell, they can't even donate to the charities they want. They have to do everything the "elites" (I hate calling them that) and the Powers that Be say and be everything they tell them to be to keep that millionaire or even "billionaire" status. Just give me $50k a year, if that means I'll have a little more freedom to live my life to the fullest and be who I want to be!

This message is right on time 😁🤗🖤. Thank you for it!

I have been looking for jobs and I have been getting rejection after rejection 😅. I love food photography and videos. It is about time to start a YouTube channel and start showing the world that I value as well. Prayers will be appreciated…..I don’t have a community to join. Would someone direct me to the right group??

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Love ur perspective 🔥

Preach!!! Teach!!! You hit the nail on the head with one!!! This is another fantastic message. Keep them coming. These messages are so needed and have exceptional value. Continue to be blessed.😁

Creating my own table has been, by far, the best gift I have ever given to myself. It’s honestly where I have culminated all of my artistic influences and made it my own. 100% recommend and I would LOVE to share my knowledge on your podcast if you ever want guests!

Imagine how different our lives would look if more of us unlearned the conformity and adaptations we have had to make to survive. I want to LIVE and once I feel like I'm stifling a part of me to be accepted I know my environment is not right. It's never wrong to listen to this instinct. Thanks for reaffirming!

Love this! I'm in publishing and I've been working on creating my own table. It's definitely tough, but rewarding when I have my own plans and future in my hands instead of a publisher. I've worked with them before and it's felt like a constant headache and creatively suffocating. Love this message so much! 😊❣😊

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This is so good! God + you = the majority. If creative people waited around for other people's permission to do things, they would be waiting forever. The only permission we need is the fact that our dreams & ideas are alive in our hearts & minds & we are blessed with breath & strength to accomplish those things.

Also, I learned this year that "anger" & "rage" are two different things. I was abused when I was growing up and as a result, I was conditioned to suppress my emotions of anger because "anger" was not safe to express to my abusers. Abusers (whether they are abusing an individual person or an entire group or culture of people) will shame/ threaten their victims into suppressing their natural response of anger (which is our God-given warning signal to protect ourselves & others) so they can continue to abuse. I was also afraid of feeling angry when I was younger because I was terrified of the rage I witnessed. Rage is out of control & destructive, but healthy anger protects & can inspire change & also motivate the actions necessary to make those changes our new reality.

Your channel has been such a blessing to me this year! 🙏
Best wishes & keep on doing all the things! 💖

The other thing I’ve found helpful is to remember that society is a joke. I don’t take any of their narratives seriously. I believe educated and suburban Black folks have suffered the most from the anti black programming. Education is nothing but indoctrination into systems of white supremacy. Rejecting white society means that they feel without a home, because the system has already tried to “elevate” them over the common Black folk. In reality, Western society is a cancer to the planet. It’s imminent collapse can’t come soon enough.

I enjoy your perspective my sister. From what I'm seeing there's a huge appetite for ANYTHING Black or coming from Black souls, from our people. The aesthetics alone is magnetic. The winds and waves are fake it's go time!
Im confident that whatever you feel in your heart to manifest, in this environment, will definitely be a welcomed blessing.
Whether individually or for business we're undeserved and that void can only be filled by us.
We're not servicing ourselves. Not only do we need to build tables we have millions of tables missing.

I love your point on Equality vs Equity. No way will we achieve equality or reach a leveled playing field without being intentional.
It's impossible to go forward equally and expect that amount of equality to balance out. That's like having a drag race and both cars go at
150mph but one car had a mile head start.
No we have to use an intentional accelerant.
Either that car slow down and go head up or that car can't get mad when we see our wheels fold into the body of the car and we fly pass them at 500mph and ain't trynna stop or be fair atal

I would love to be apart of this photograph journey/project with you. 😊❤❤❤

I have built my own table! Do It BIG Academy. I got sick of asking schools to accept my curriculum. This was awesome and so motivating.

really the music industry is general , its anything that u want it to be

Thank you for posting this. You would think that working under "your own kind" would help you, not trap you into a position. That's exactly what happened to me and why I'd left a position